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A mother left behind


A mother left behind

Bowling works to save children through a tragedy


By Bill Shope

Scioto Voice Writer


“Being a mother is learning about strengths you didn’t know you had and dealing with fears you didn’t know existed.” — Linda Wooten

Andrea Bowling remembers the moment vividly.

“I was at school, teaching, and I received a phone call from Scioto County Children’s Services (SCCCS) which as a foster parent isn’t unusual, on the morning of January 15th. I was asked to pick up a baby from the hospital that had been born drug-addicted. I replied yes, absolutely. I went to the hospital that evening, where I received four hours of training learning how to take care of this baby while tests were still being run on him, due to his smallness,’ Bowling recalled.

That infant was Dylan Groves.

After taking a leave from her school district in order to care for the newborn baby boy, Bowling worked her hardest to help relieve his struggles from withdrawal symptoms, holding him close as possible and swaddling him in blankets to keep him from shaking. She had been given the charge of caring for two foster children, previously, but she knew in her heart, this was different and special.

Dylan was in Bowling’s loving and protective care for twelve days.

“SCCS called me after ten days, actually and told me that, out of the blue, Dylan was going to be reunified with his father. I immediately asked them to reconsider-I basically begged them to change their minds. I did not believe Dylan was ready to go to a home where there had been previous drug use. I was told they (SCCS) had made their decision even though I requested another meeting to discuss this based on how fragile Dylan was and the severity of his withdrawals. They ignored my requests and had me to bring him to the SCCS office on a Monday morning-we waited while his father was 25 minutes late for the pickup. “

At the time of the reunification, Daniel Groves was ordered by SCCS not to allow the mother, Jessica Groves to be around Dylan, according to Bowling. “It soon became obvious that she was around him.”

According to Montgomery County Coroner Kent Harshbarger’s final report, Dylan was murdered sometime during the following two months.

“That day was so hard,” a tearful Bowling said. “I remember talking with Dylan’s dad, telling him some things like how to care for him and before they left, I asked to kiss Dylan’s head one more time and he said yes.” In her heart, Bowling hoped that wouldn’t be the last time she would give the little boy that kiss and she spoke of some measures she had taken to make sure Dylan would always know just how special he was to Bowling and her family.

“I gave his Dad a Bible to give to Dylan, for when he was old enough to read it and I also gave him tons of formula, diapers and a gray blanket that he always cuddled up in with me. I also gave Daniel a letter-it described how much I loved Dylan and how precious he was to me and I would like to be a part of his life, by knowing of the milestones he would reach during his life. I even gave them my phone number, but I never received a call. Once a child is returned to the birth parents children’s services agencies will not give out information to the foster parent. It was a very, very, emotional reunification.”

A sense of foreboding suffocated Bowling as the man and his infant son left the office. “I expressed that to SCCS before the reunification which fell to deaf ears. I knew this wasn’t supposed to happen: to the point that I had a prayer group praying for Dylan, every day, before the reunification. We prayed for Dylan for months and months, until they found him in that well.”

That same sense of worry drove Bowling to ask SCCS on a number of occasions if Dylan was okay over the following months-“I was always told he was doing well., and not to hinder the reunification process by asking about him.” she informed The Scioto Voice.

Just as vividly as she recalls meeting Dylan for the first time, she remembers the minute she learned of Dylan’s fate.

“I screamed for a solid half an hour and I cried-I still cry, every single day.” With tears running down her face, Bowling spoke of the gratitude she felt for her family and friends that came to her side immediately. “I was angry, sad and so mad-I felt helpless. I was devastated. The grief has been so profound for Bowling that she lights a candle every day beside a photograph of the beloved baby, in his memory.

However, out of that crushing grief, a seed was planted.

“After I was able to process and accept that he was gone, my brother and my sister-in-law and a good friend decided we were going to do something to make a change. We got together a few weekends in a row and developed a plan to pass “Dylan’s Law.” The idea that was devised focused on making serious and lasting changes to the reunification process in Ohio.

“Our State Representative Brian Baldridge is working on this, along with our new State Senator, Terry Johnson. We will not stop until productive changes have been made. The House has given us some very positive feedback and has recognized the need for changes to be made. The only thing that can give me any peace about this is in knowing that Dylan’s life will be used to help save other children,” Bowling said, struggling to keep her emotions in check.

“When Daniel and Jessica’s murder trial was pushed back, I was afraid this would be forgotten to an extent. I don’t want this to be forgotten, change needs to be made, now. Dylan’s short life deserves a purpose and to have meaning.”

Bowling, who has been an educator for 18 years, is currently caring for another baby, a little girl and the mother to a number of children in our area told The Voice she will be returning to work soon. The events of this year have impacted her as a teacher, too. Every day is a gift-people do not know what some of the kids in our county go home to. We try to protect them but it’s a circumstance where we do the best we can do and leave it tin God’s hands.”

But it’s not enough and she’s not sure things will ever truly be the same for her and her circle.

“My heart literally aches, every day for Dylan. My Lord gives me strength and peace in the knowledge that I will get to see him again. I believe he is in the arms of angels, now. That gives me some peace,” Bowing said serenely.

Even with the heartbreak that she carries and that, indeed, all familiar with this story carry, Bowling believes that being a foster parent is a calling f a high nature and still, a worthwhile endeavor.

“I want to say to anyone with the best of intentions, if you feel the lead to become a foster parent, please do. We need good foster parents who will answer the call to love these babies. They need us to love them and be their voice.”

To be Dylan’s voice.

To make sure that twelve days is never, ever long enough, again.





  1. Cynthia Como on January 9, 2020 at 1:03 am

    Heartbreaking!! I have lived in Ohio my whole life and remember this horrific crime well! I think all DFAC’s in all 50 states need to seriously rethink their “keeping the family together” policy ASAP!! It’s an utter failure and the number of infants & children laying in their graves SCREAM to the world what a failure it is!! DFAC’s in all 50 states should realize by now that too many times its NOT in the best interest of the child to go back to their abuser, in fact I find it insanity to keep sending these infants & children to their graves via being sent back to the hell they were taken out of….MAKES NO SENSE! I consider DFAC’s co participant’s in the crime of neglect & murder when returning helpless children back to their “parents”and then they are killed by those so called “parents” WE SHOULD KNOW BETTER BY NOW & DO BETTER AS A RESULT

  2. Janice Field on January 12, 2020 at 9:16 pm

    I think it is extremely sad if Soc. Services is so cavalierly handing these precious infants to recently addicted parents who went through withdraw in order to have them back..! If they have anger issues, they will most likely get much worse. This may have something to do with the increase in abuse. (Regardless of withdraw or not. Sometimes just the increase of responsibility in people who have anger issues is enough to cause a lashing out that can be fatal.)

    • Carol L Barnett on November 29, 2023 at 4:03 am

      Bless the Foster parents. It would be devastating to go through what they ðid but it was upp to the court not the fosters. It’s just sad for everyone. Was their older son oblivious or never around. Most people would notice issues.

    • Carol L Barnett on November 29, 2023 at 4:07 am

      Unfortunately they give kids back and when bad things happen they blame a case load like with Gabriel Hernandez beaten to death by his mom and her gross boyfriend. I hope jail opens their eyes.

  3. December on March 16, 2020 at 1:05 am

    I agree with this 2 an extent, children should ALWAYS be reunited with parents IF && where its in their BEST interest BUT they should be thoroughly investigated, watched for a time, they need counseling, classes && anything else that can properly prepare them. I lost my children due to addiction but i fought && fought for them && eventually won the opportunity to prove myself 2 them && even brought another life into the world && got the honor of bringing her home from the hospital. Don’t judge all addicts from some. Withdrawal has nothing to do with it but they should wait until the withdrawal subsides to reunify PERIOD

  4. Jan on August 1, 2020 at 10:08 am

    Thank you God for placing Andrea in Dylan’s life. Parenting is a privilege. When we, as a civilized society, begin to recognize this (instead of viewing it as our right) children will be cared for properly and valued. RIP little Dylan. Your fight is over and now you rest comfortably in the arms of Jesus.

    • Carol L Barnett on November 29, 2023 at 4:09 am

      Bless Andrea and her family. Your doing a great service.

  5. Cindy Hutchins on April 7, 2021 at 1:41 pm

    We had an infant here in Tishomingo Oklahoma..same thing gave baby back to drug addiction parents baby severely beaten to death.. Drug addicts can’t take care of themselves much less an tiny newborn…

  6. Nina on August 16, 2023 at 9:12 am

    I worked with drug addicted infants for many years. The first 6 weeks are tough, incessant crying, startling, quiet music, and wrapping all work.
    Through the miracle of the brain, it is possible, although the prognosis was ALWAYS miserable. Kids developed into normal toddlers, then preschoolers under our program. One woman who delivered her baby while shooting heroin, had a slow learner, but within 2 years she was caught up. In an amazing foster home and by 12 was a “gifted” student
    Breaks my heart that baby Dylan didn’t get that chance. Early INTERVENTION!

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